Excerpt from Rising Stong

“Storytelling helps us all impose order on chaos—including emotional chaos. When we’re in pain, we create a narrative to help us make sense of it. This story doesn’t have to be based on any real information. One dismissive glance from a coworker can instantly turn into I knew she didn’t like me. I responded to Steve so defensively because when I’m in doubt, the “I’m not enough” explanation is often the first thing I grab. It’s like my comfy jeans—may not be flattering, but familiar.

Our stories are also about self-protection. I told myself Steve was blaming me so I could be mad instead of admitting that I was vulnerable or afraid of feeling inadequate. I could disengage from the tougher stuff. That’s what human beings tend to do: When we’re under threat, we run. If we feel exposed or hurt, we find someone to blame, or blame ourselves before anyone else can, or pretend we don’t care.

But this unconscious storytelling leaves us stuck. We keep tripping over the same issues, and after we fall, we find it hard to get back up again. But in my research on shame and vulnerability, I’ve also learned a lot about resilience. For my book Rising Strong, I spent time with many amazing people—from Fortune 500 leaders to long-married couples—who are skilled at recovering from setbacks, and they have one common characteristic: They can recognize their own confabulations and challenge them. The good news is that we can rewrite these stories. We just have to be brave enough to reckon with our deepest emotions.” – for the whole excerpt click here

Blessed Yule Evening with UUFM

Celebrate Yule with songs and guided meditation.

Friday, December 22 at 6 pm at the UUFM (Unitarian Universalist Fellowship of Morgantown).  Our theme is coming out of the dark and welcoming back the light.

We ask that participants bring with them a story of the darkness, whether it be a literal story about something memorable that happened in the dark, or perhaps metaphorically of coming out of a physical or emotional darkness, which they will be asked to share as part of the ritual.  Afterwards, we plan a potluck meal, so please bring something yummy to share.  We will have traditional Yule foods as well as wassail.

The fellowship is located at 429 Warrick Avenue, Morgantown, WV.  Hope to see you there.

Season’s Blessings,

Cricket

The Dangers of a Single Story

The Nigerian story teller, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, explains in this video how stories give us different views of the world. With humor, grace, and personal anecdotes, she illustrates that the single story creates incomplete stereotypes which makes people lives a flat experience.

I believe that listening to multiple stories we are able to increase the dignity of others.

Namaste,

Cricket