Sunday March 20, 2016: Self Esteem




This morning we have treat for you. Some of our young people have worked together to prepare this morning’s service.

Come into this circle of community. Come into this sacred space. By Andrew Pakula

Come into this circle of community. Come into this sacred space.
Be not tentative. Bring your whole self!
Bring the joy that makes your heart sing.
Bring your kindness and your compassion.
Bring also your sorrow, your pain.
Bring your brokenness and your disappointments.
Spirit of love and mystery; help us to recognize the spark of the divine that resides within each of us.
May we know the joy of wholeness.
May we know the joy of being together.

Chalice Lighting: Global Chalice Lighting March 2016 by Rev. David Usher, First ICUU President

All around the world, the light of honest thought shines, showing people the path to their own authentic faith.
All around the world, the warmth of community glows, drawing people in from loneliness and estrangement.
All around the world, the flame of justice burns, inspiring people to acts of faith-filled courage.
Here, too, may the light and warmth of this chalice be to us a beacon of truth, generosity and compassion, that we may learn the ways of faith and love.

Principle Song: The Principles Song (To the Tune of Do-Re-Mi)


One each person is important
Two be kind in all you do
Three we’re free to learn together
Four we search for what is true
Five all people have a voice
Six, build a fair and peaceful world
Seven, we care for Earth’s life boat.
And that brings us back to me and you UU.

Story for All Ages: Leo the Lop by Stephen Cosgrove Illustrated by Robin James

Offering and Response  (Unison)

For the gifts which we have received—and the gifts which we, ourselves, are—may we be truly grateful. Yet more than that, may we be committed to using these gifts to make a difference in the world: to increase love and justice; to decrease hatred and oppression; to expand beloved community; to share, and to keep sharing, as long as ever we can. Amen.

Responsive Reading: In Troubled Times By Stephen M Shick

From the loneliness of troubled times, we come
To discover that we are not alone.
Into the dwelling place of togetherness, we come
To collect remnants of hope.
From fear that all is lost, we come
To discover what will save us.
Into the comfort of each other’s arms, we come
To feel the strength that has not yet vanished.
From darkness, we come
To wait until our eyes begin to see.
Into the refuge of fading dreams, we come
To remove illusions and focus new visions.
From despair that walks alone, we come
To travel together.
Into the dwelling place of generations, we come
To pledge allegiance to being peace
and doing justice.


Song: Simple Gifts (twice)

Its a gift to be simple, Its a gift to be free,
Its the gift to come down where you ought to be,
And when we find ourselves in the place just right,
Will be in the valley of love and delight.

When true simplicity is gained,
To bow and to bend, we will not be ashamed,
To turn, turn, will be our delight,
Till by turning, turning we come round right


When I was in South Carolina, I went to a youth retreat for the United Methodist Church. It was called Revolution and it was for the whole state of South Carolina. The theme for the weekend was being a Masterpiece. I felt like a lone black ant in a hill of fire ants, but I had an amazing time. It was not set up the way I expected. There were three really important presenters. I am They is a Christian band and we heard their song “Awake my love” at the opening of the service. Their music is fun and bouncy most of the time.

DJ Paul deejays for Jesus.

The main was Romal Tune. He grew up in Brooklyn and spent of his life in the streets. His mother was a smoker and a drug addict. He struggled to stay in school and gang members often fed him. He grew up, went to school, and now preaches around the world for children who grew up like he did. One of the things he did really spoke to me. He had a whole bunch of people write negative things about themselves on post-it notes and he put them on a giant cross. During the presentation, he tore them all down and ripped them up. Today we are going to do something similar.

We made this chalice board last night. I would like everyone to come up and write two things on the board. The first being a bad thing that someone else said about you. The second being something bad you have said about yourself. While you do not have to participate, it would be greatly appreciated if you did. We will do this quietly while listening to “We are broken” by Paramore. After you have finished writing on the board please sit and think about how those things made you feel when they were said or when you thought them about yourself.

I’m going to share some inspirational quotes with you while we rip up all of the bad words and thoughts about ourselves.

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection”
― Gautama Buddha

“Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life, but define yourself.”
― Harvey Fierstein

“One’s dignity may be assaulted, vandalized and cruelly mocked, but it can never be taken away unless it is surrendered.”
― Michael J. Fox

“My best friend is the one who brings out the best in me.”
― Henry Ford

“Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.”
― Norman Vincent Peale

“Be faithful to that which exists within yourself.”
― André Gide

You are allowed to be both a masterpiece and a work in progress simultaneously.

We are taking all of these bad thoughts and throwing them away.

Discussion Time

How did it feel to come to terms with your negative thoughts?

How did it feel to see them being ripped apart?

What are some ways we can work towards having better self-esteem?

What are ways to remind ourselves that we don’t have to be perfect?

Song: Rainbow Connection

Why are there so many songs about rainbows
And what’s on the other side
Rainbows are visions
But only illusions
And rainbows have nothing to hide

So we’ve been told
And some choose to believe it
I know they’re wrong, wait and see
Some day we’ll find it
The rainbow connection
The lovers, the dreamers, and me

Who said that every wish
Would be heard and answered
When wished on the morning star
Somebody thought of that
And someone believed it
And look what it’s done so far

What’s so amazing
That keeps us stargazing
And what do we think we might see
Someday we’ll find it
The rainbow connection
The lovers, the dreamers, and me

All of us under its spell, we know that it’s probably magic

Have you been half asleep?
And have you heard voices?
I’ve heard them calling my name
Is this the sweet sound
That called the young sailors?
The voice might be one in the same

I’ve heard it too many times to ignore it
It’s something that I’m supposed to be
Someday we’ll find it
The rainbow connection
The lovers, the dreamers and me

La da da di da da dum da duh da da dum di da ohhh

Joys and Sorrows

If you woke this morning with a sorrow so heavy that you need the help of this community to carry it;
or if you woke with a joy so great that it simply must be shared, now is the time for you to speak.


For the joys and sorrows that haven’t been spoken, but which remain in the silent sanctuaries of our hearts.
These joys and griefs, spoken and unspoken, weave us together in the fabric of community.

Silent Meditation

Closing: Blessed is the Path by Eric Williams

Blessed is the path on which you travel.
Blessed is the body that carries you upon it.
Blessed is your heart that has heard the call.
Blessed is your mind that discerns the way.
Blessed is the gift that you will receive by going.
Truly blessed is the gift that you will become on the journey.
May you go forth in peace.

Song: Go Now In Peace (3 times)

Go now in peace, go now in peace
May our love and care surround you
Everywhere, everywhere, you may go