We can help our struggling loved ones by reassuring them that they can bring us their pain without guilt or shame. This article from Omid Safi is a good place to start.
“Why a flaming chalice?” the question comes.
It’s the cup of life, we answer.
A cup of blessings overflowing.
A cup of water to quench our spirits’ thirst.
A cup of wine for celebration and dedication.
The flame of truth.
The fire of purification.
Oil for anointing, healing.
Out of chaos, fear, and horror,
thus was the symbol crafted, a generation ago.
So may it be for us,
in these days of uncertainty, sorrow, and rage.
And a light to warm our souls and guide us home.
The second principle is about Justice, equity and compassion in human relations or Being kind in all we do.
Here are some activities to help you celebrate the day:
As a family
Try to go the whole day without arguing. Focus on putting the wants and needs of your brother/ sister/ mother/ father/ husband/ wife before your own.
Make little gift baskets for the kids or the elderly in your neighborhood. One of our neighbors made our son an Easter basket (also a Halloween and Christmas basket). It made our son, my wife and me feel great. The cost of each basket was probably $5.
Donate Toys or books.
As an individual
Through Send Kids the World you can send postcards to the siblings of seriously ill children. Siblings often don’t understand what is going on and feel left out because of all the attention and cards a sick sibling receives. (Scroll down the web page and look for the link on the left side.)
“Want me to pick something up for you?” If you know someone is overwhelmed – perhaps by a new baby, family health issues, or something else – give them a call when you’re going out to the store. Ask if they’d like you to pick something up. We’ve been the beneficiaries of this random act of kindness, and it’s great.
Offer to buy someone else food.
Pay for the next person in the drive-through.
Go out to eat and tip your server double.
Welcome: To Remind Ourselves What Is Real, By Elena Westbrook
In a world ravaged by violence, by hatred,
by conflicts that seem eternal and insoluble,
sometimes the only thing we can do
is be still for a moment
to remind ourselves what is real:
the sun that rose this morning,
the dirt under our feet,
the air whispering in and out of our lungs.
This hour, try just to be present in each moment as it unfolds.
Your simple attention is what makes these moments holy.
Chalice lighting: Embrace The Night, By Jennifer Leota Gray
Guide us away from the desire to
Shine light in all the corners.
Teach us to embrace the night,
For without the darkness,
We never see the stars.
Prelude: Perfect by Pink
Welcome: Even in the most broken places, there is room for love By Becky Brooks
Mother’s Day is complicated. Joyful for many, yes, but complicated.
It’s right there on the calendar, even if your mother has died. Even if you’ve been told, yet again, that you’re still not pregnant; or if you’ve never been more scared than you are right now because you are pregnant, it’s Mother’s Day. Even if your own mother’s priorities included everything but you, there’s going to be a Mother’s Day google doodle with flowers and pink stuff. Even if you have scars, ones you can see or ones you can’t, it’s Mother’s Day. That cake mix commercial is going to roll out four times an hour even when you can’t stop shaking and crying because you can’t believe you slapped your little boy today. It’s Mother’s Day. And we all have to live with that, in those silent, breathless moments, because even when the baby dies, it’s Mother’s Day.
And so let’s go to church. Let’s be a church where we can acknowledge how difficult it is to have this day, right alongside how joyful this day can be. Let’s be a church where don’t pretend there aren’t inky depths of space between us even when we sing. Let’s be a church that fills the space between our differences with love. Because even in the most broken places, there is room for love. We can be that church.
Chalice Lighting: Chalice Lighting on Inherent Worth and Dignity By Steve Stock
We light this chalice to celebrate the inherent worth and dignity of every person;
To reaffirm the historic pledge of liberal religion to seek that justice which transcends mere legality and moves toward the resolution of true equality; And to share that love which is ultimately beyond even our cherished reason, that love which unites us.